Thursday, November 4, 2010

A hard 2 months.....

The reason I have not been very active here lately is that I have lost both my Father-in-law and Mother-in-law within 7 weeks of each other. They were the rock beneath my husband and the loving grandparents to our children and I loved them too. They were 87 and 88 respectively and although they had lived a full, exciting and long life, the family were never ready to say goodbye.  The passing of my Father-In-Law from a stroke on the 2nd Sept and my Mother-In-Law shortly afterwards from complications in her health after his passing was a huge blow to us. Our days were taken up with daily visits to to hospital, making new plans for Evelyn. and trying to adjust. When Felix passed away after a stroke we took time to and heal and mourn. But Evelyn, (not strong due to dialysis treatment, was trying hard to adjust to not having Felix around to look after any more) developed complications. She spent 5 weeks in and out of ICU. Finally on the 25th October she slipped away after a brave fight.

There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go.  ~Author Unknown


I'm praying that the Lord grant my husband and his sisters strength and hope they all  find calm in their hearts to weather the storm and find peace to carry them through this tough time.  Both Felix and Evelyn are now in a happy, peaceful place, together! 
RIP. We will miss you both!

 

14 comments:

Carol Blackburn said...

Dearest Debbie,
Please accept my condolences on the loss of your loved ones.
Prayerfully,
Carol

vickylw (Vicky Williamson) said...

I'm so sorry for your family's pain and sorrow, Debbie. Praying you will all be filled with all hope in believing the Lord. He has good plans for each of you.

Pat said...

Our sincere condolences xx

RHCarpenter said...

I am so sorry for your loss.

Kaye Parmenter said...

I'm so sorry to hear your very sad news Debbie, thinking of you and your family x

Debbie said...

Thank you kind blogger friends. This means so much to me and the family as a whole. I'm sure time will heal our tattered souls and make us smile again.

martinealison said...

Plein de belles pensées pour vous et votre famille afin de vous aider à traverser ce moment très difficile de la vie...
Bisous

Sandra said...

What an awful time you have had :0( They do say that a couple who have been together for many years often pop off one quickly after the other. It sounds like Evelyn couldn't live without him and she is exactly where she wants to be now, with Felix. I'm sorry for you all and hope that you can come to terms with it in good time. I think the beautiful painting of the flowers is a perfect addition to your touching post. I love it :0)

jane minter said...

my deepest condolences for your family's loss debbie .. jane and family x

Crystal Cook said...

I'm so very sorry for your loss Debbie. I'll have you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. :) And I'm sending you big hugs and virtual chocolate chip cookies. Your paintings are lovely, so fresh and alive. A fitting tribute to the loved ones you've lost.

Cathy Gatland said...

Debbie, I'm so sorry you've had such a sad time - I was going to say what Sandra did - it's amazing how long married couples often depart within days or weeks of each other, and probably the most merciful thing for them, but hard for those left behind! Wish you all strength and comfort.

Melissa Fischer said...

I am so sorry, Debbie, and your husband and you will be in my prayers. That is a lot of loss all at once, and your husband must be at loose ends and grieving deeply. Your post was beautiful...

martinealison said...

Je te remercie infiniment pour ta gentille attention en ce qui concerne la naissance de Nathan. Ton commentaire laissé sur mon blog m'a beaucoup touchée. Je t'embrasse très fort.
Bisous

Debbie said...

To all my blogger friends, thank you so much for taking time to show concern and warmth. I really do appreciate the kindness shown. The family are slowly adjusting to not having our dear matriarch around, as well as the loss of Felix. But my husband and his sisters still feel empty from time to time.